Domestic violence is very serious, it can affect men, women and children. Usually men are the abusers, but men can also be abused. When children witness domestic violence, that’s trauma. Children are at greater risk of emotional, behavior, sexual abuse and learning problems.
You can recover, but it will take hard work on your part. And you are going to have to want it. You should talk with God, a trusted family member, friend or counselor. God is the true healer. So please don’t leave Him out of your recovery.
It will affect you mentally and physically. We’re not the same and things don’t affect everyone in the same way. When you are experiencing or living with domestic violence you don’t feel safe or secure most of the time, and it causes you to have trouble sleeping and dealing with life. Some days you don’t want to get out of bed to face the day. You start isolating yourself from family and friends. Your behavior change at work or school. You begin to lose trust and faith in people. It causes you to feel helpless and hopeless because of the shame and guilt. But it is not your fault. It’s your abuser that has the problem and needs help. But they have to want to change.
I know, because I witnessed domestic violence as a child growing up, then I married a man, that I though loved me. Then again, I guess, he did love me, but had a problem. And he abused me for many, many years. I stayed because I didn’t know any better at first, then over time, I thought I could change him. I could be enough. Now, I lived to help others by sharing my story.
So why, is it not recognized or overlooked, especially if it’s emotional abuse vs physical abuse, as a serious crime. I believe physical, emotional and sexual abuse is equally bad. And these problems should be addressed. Most cases is men hitting, punching, threatening and emotionally abusing women. But men can get abused too. It also affects children growing up seeing and hearing their parents fight.
It kills your spirit, causes depression and low self-esteem.
The Cycle of Abuse goes in a circle like this: Abuse – he feel guilty, make excuses – then the fantasy, you get the flower, candy, sweet takes and making love – then the setup, – the abuse come again.
Verbal, physical and emotional abuse done to your spouse or partner to dominate and control them. It’s also more ways to abuse the other, like financial abuse, spiritual abuse, abusing a pet and sexual abuse.
The first step is recognizing the abuse. Once you realize, decide if you are going to leave or stay in the relationship. Please protect yourself and its people and agencies out there to help. If you decide to get an order of protection. Go to your local courthouse and it’s free for domestic violence cases. You have to file out the paperwork and be very detailed and honest. It’s also clerks in place to answer any questions. After You turn in your form, a judge will look over your form and may need to speak with you. At that time you will be granted temporary order and you will get four copies. One for you, the police department, the courts and your abuser will be served. So if you have a picture of him and describe him to make it easier to be served. You will have a court date and at that time you will get a permanent Oder of protection. Be safe. Love Doesn’t Have to Hurt.
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